Get tips and tricks on how to make friends as an adult. Whether you are introverted, moving to a city, or simply want a way to connect with more people, these ideas can help!
Making new friends used to be such an easy thing to do.
As children, you basically only needed to see another child and you were friends instantly.
Whoever was in your neighbourhood was considered a friend.
You would meet new people at the park every day.
As we age, that process of making new friends gets a little harder.
But as long as you’re in school, it’s still relatively easy to keep up a social life. You’re meeting new people in every class and getting opportunities to hang out regularly.
Once that stage, passes, however, lots of people find themselves in a difficult position.
You are no longer making instant friends with people your age.
Classes are no longer an option when it comes to meeting new acquaintances.
And when you are busy with a significant other or a child, the time available to be with any friends you do have is sparse.
Overall, it is just so much harder to maintain old friendships and to create new ones.
I’ve got some suggestions today that I think will be useful to help show you how to make friends when you have none at the moment.
But before we jump into that list of tips, let’s go over a couple of important points.
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Why do I have no friends?
When people find themselves feeling lonely, the first thing they start to wonder is what they’re doing wrong that is leaving them without a community of friends.
If you are feeling this way yourself, the first thing you need to recognize is that it likely has nothing to do with your personality.
It’s easy to assume that there’s something wrong with you when you are struggling to make friends but chances are that there is a myriad of reasons that you are having trouble making a community for yourself.
Here are some possible reasons that you might be struggling to make friends:
- You haven’t been spending much time in public spaces
- You haven’t been reaching out to friends you have or to new people
- You’ve had a lack of involvement in clubs or groups
- There have not been many opportunities for strangers to approach you
- Making friends has not been a priority in your life lately
The main point is that friendship simply hasn’t been a big priority in your life. You will always be able to find people who are happy to connect with you but you will need to make an active effort to find them.
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Why is it hard to make friends?
Friendship was such a simple thing when we were kids- why did it change when we got older?
One of the biggest reasons that it gets harder to make friends in adulthood is that we simply get more self-conscious about whether people want to be our friends.
It’s easy as an adult to worry about what other people think of us when we put ourselves out there. We tend to worry about whether or not we are bothering people or if they think we are strange or annoying.
Additionally, we tend to have less time for socializing.
Between work and home responsibilities as well as needing to take time for family or your own children, it can be hard to make friendship a priority in life.
And when things are not a priority, they simply get ignored.
Finally, there are just not that many opportunities to meet new people.
Without school or club involvement, it’s tougher to run into like-minded people that you will see regularly.
All of these reasons make it difficult to make friends in adulthood. Luckily, they do not make it impossible.
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Is it better to have no friends?
As hard as it feels sometimes to make and keep friends, we know without a doubt that it is always a worthwhile effort to make.
We are social creatures by nature.
It is not healthy or beneficial for us to be without a community of people to lean on.
Here are 10 reasons for you to have friends:
- Your happiness receives a boost
- Stress levels in your body improve
- It promotes your overall health and wellness
- Your lifestyle will be more likely to become healthier
- You will experience higher self-esteem and struggle less with insecurity
- It will give you a deeper sense of purpose and belonging
- You will likely see more personal development and growth in your life
- Trying times in life will be more manageable because you already have a support system
- Your cognitive health may experience a boost
- You will be able to bounce back from illness much quicker
For both your mental and physical health, human interaction and friendship are extremely important. You might be able to get by for a while but eventually, you will be in need of company.
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The three types of friends you need in your life
Aristotle identified three categories of friendship that remain widely accepted even today: friendships of utility, friendships of pleasure, and friendships of the good.
Depending on who you are and what your social preferences are, you might want to have more of one type than the others.
Friendships of utility
This refers to the sort of friendships that come about because of convenience.
They might be a team member on your local sports team with whom you play. Perhaps they are a co-worker that answers a lot of your work questions.
They could be from anything where you mutually benefit from each other.
Though they are not the most personally fulfilling friendships, they are relatively common and easy to create.
Friendships of pleasure
These friends are the ones who you hang out with simply because it is pleasurable.
You might find that their lively nature is really fun at parties. It could be that their interest in movies is compatible with yours so you enjoy watching them together.
This form of friendship is slightly more intimate than friendships of utility but they are not quite as intimate as friendships of the good.
They take some work to find but not too much work to maintain.
Friendships of the good
These friendships cut much deeper than the other two categories.
It is a friendship of the soul that has nothing to do with the activities you do together.
Anne of Green Gables uses the term kindred spirits to describe the connection.
Many other writers talk about a feeling of one’s soul connecting to the soul of another.
Regardless of the term, the sentiment is the same- this is a friendship of the deepest level.
These friendships are much rarer but infinitely more valuable. When you find a friendship of this calibre, it is best to work hard to maintain it, as it will likely be hard to find again.
All of these types of friendships are good and fulfilling.
Depending on who you are, you might find that you prefer one to another. You might even notice that you have a lot of friends in one particular category and none in any other areas.
It’s important to keep in mind that there isn’t any ideal when it comes to friendship.
You definitely need friends but there is no universal quota of each category that is consistent.
Personally, I am satisfied when I have one friend of the good in my life with one or two friendships of pleasure in the mix. However, I know people who need a lot more friendships of pleasure and some who prefer more friendships of utility.
You need to figure out for yourself what makes you feel best and aim to follow that.
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How to make friends as an adult
There are quite a few simple lifestyle changes that you can make to find friends as an adult more easily. This list is packed with ideas to help you- use the ones that you like best and watch the friends roll in!
Start with the right mindset
One big reason why you might be struggling to make friends is that you have the wrong mindset about it.
Maybe you are waiting for the perfect situation where your dream friend walks up to you someday and you instantly connect.
But this dream scenario likely isn’t going to happen.
These tips are all about how you can make little changes in your mindset and demeanour that will make finding friends easier.
1. Assume that people will like you
One big mindset issue when it comes to making new friends as an adult is that we don’t believe that people we approach will like us.
In fact, most people assume they will be considered annoying.
If you start with the belief that you will be liked by the people you approach, it will already leave you more confident.
This will make you more likely to reach out to others on your own.
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2. Understand that the worst that could happen is not that bad
Another problem that often arises when we are wondering how to make friends is that we already assume the worst.
It’s easy to think that we will be laughed out of the room or that we will be publicly shamed.
But truthfully, this is incredibly unlikely.
The worst thing you’d likely experience is a bit of temporary embarrassment or discomfort but nothing to cry about. It’s worth it to try!
3. Choose to believe that you can make friends anywhere
People often have it in their heads that friends can only be made at school or in an office. When those two things are not available to them, they’re left wondering how to make friends.
But here’s the thing: friends can be made literally anywhere.
I once made a friend at a blood donor clinic and it could totally happen again!
It won’t happen, however, if you never believe it will.
If you don’t think it’s possible to make friends outside of work or school, then you won’t watch for opportunities outside of those two places.
The moment you start seeing the possibilities, opportunities will start showing up everywhere!
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4. Be open-minded to who you might meet
If you have a specific person in your mind as the ideal friend, you will waste your life waiting for that imaginary person to appear.
It is important that you set a mindset that is open to new possibilities.
Friends are often found in unexpected places but when we close our minds to the possibilities, we miss out on those opportunities.
Don’t let yourself get so stuck on an ideal friend that you miss the real one right in front of you.
5. Don’t expect perfection
Some of my best friends were people I actually didn’t like the first time I met them. If I was expecting perfection on my first encounter with them, there is no way we would be friends today.
In many situations, it is important for you to have a mindset of flexibility and patience.
Things might not be perfect on the first try.
Sometimes, things get better with time and other times they don’t, but it’s worth a shot to see where things go!
If things don’t go perfectly with your new friend, don’t give up too quickly, stick around for a while and see what happens- you might be pleasantly surprised by the result!
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6. Don’t play the victim… make a move!
If you are wishing you knew how to make friends because no one ever seems interested in connecting, it might be time to consider how involved you’ve been in the past.
Are you someone who approaches other people or have you just been secretly hoping for a friend and waiting for someone to appear out of thin air and approach you?
It’s fair to want to be the one that gets approached but that seems to be everyone’s preference.
We’re all just waiting for friends to appear in front of us.
Instead of being the one passively waiting for a friend, though, why not readjust your thinking and be the hero of your own story?
Be aware that if you want a friend, you need to go out there and get one!
When you want food, you don’t just wait for the groceries to come to you- you go out and get them yourself! It’s time to do the same with your relationships.
Actively seek out other people and don’t be afraid to be the one to make the first move.
7. Value your own hobbies and interests
This might sound like a bit of a weird mindset shift to make but it helps to think about why it’s important.
Think about this: if you walk up to someone and strike a conversation, they will likely want to know a bit about you.
If they ask what sort of things you’re into and all you have to say for yourself is that you watch a lot of tv, there really isn’t much for the two of you to connect with.
On the other hand, if they ask this question and you have clear hobbies and interests, you will likely connect much more easily.
Personally, the fact that I play piano has always been an easy way to connect with people.
I will often make friends with people who are always on the lookout for people to play music with, so it’s an instant way to connect and find excuses to meet up later. I’ve lived in many different places and have always made new friends easily based on the fact that they love to play music with other people.
8. Be yourself
With all of these previous tips and the tips to come, it is crucial for you to remember this point- you NEED to be yourself.
Though you might make some lifestyle changes or physical adjustments, you shouldn’t ever try to change who you are at the core.
If some people don’t like you because of who you are, it just means that the two of you aren’t a great fit.
It doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you.
So as you make some of these minor changes, be careful that you don’t actually change anything about who you are as a person. You will eventually find someone who enjoys your company as you are.
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Make an effort to be more approachable
It is important to keep in mind that I am not telling you to change who you are as a person but it certainly helps to be aware of how approachable you are to others initially. These small changes are things you can do every day to simply show people that you are friendly and open to connecting.
9. Smile
This is so simple but makes a huge difference.
Simply smiling more will already make it easier for people to approach you.
When you don’t smile, it might give off the impression that you are angry or don’t want to be disturbed.
By smiling at other people, you already made a move to show them that you are welcoming and happy to connect with them.
10. Laugh
Again, this is a simple change that just shows people that you are in the mood to socialize.
You don’t have to fake a laugh if there’s nothing there to laugh about but there’s no need to stifle a laugh when it feels natural, either.
11. Show that you’re friendly
When we approach a new dog to pet it, we often hold out our hand first and give them a chance to sniff us so that they know we are not going to hurt them.
People are quite similar in this respect.
No one is going to want to approach a stranger that might yell at them or be aggressive.
When you make it clear to others that you are approachable and friendly with your demeanour, you might actually find more people making an effort to break the ice themselves.
12. Be a positive light
Honestly, I find that simple positivity in your daily life makes a huge difference in how often people will approach you.
There is a reason Scrooge struggles to find community in his life- he’s constantly grumbling and unhappy!
If you make an effort to see the positive things in life, people will be sure to sense that and gravitate towards it.
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13. Put down the phone
If you were on a bus and one person was deeply focused on their phone while the other person was just sitting there, which one would you approach?
Probably the one who appears to be doing nothing.
The moment you take out your phone, you’ve just told everyone in the vicinity that you have no interest in being interrupted.
If you want to give people a chance to connect with you, it’s important that you’re not connected to anything else- including your phone.
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14. Don’t try to look busy
On days when I didn’t want to be approached by people, I would always bring a book and big, obvious headphones with me. The fact that all of my senses were occupied made it easy to block people out.
If you want people to come to talk to you, remove the obstacles that would stop them from approaching.
They don’t want to be rude, so if you make it clear that they’re not interrupting anything, they will be more likely to reach out.
15. Wear clothes that make you more approachable
Back in university, I had some friends who, after some time with me, told me that they were wary of me when we first met.
This was because the first time they saw me, I was overdressed and they just assumed that I was pretentious and unfriendly as a result.
After hearing this feedback from more than one friend, I realized that there was a good chance I was missing out on some valuable friendships simply because my clothing made me look unfriendly.
I started to dress down a little bit (I still wear clothes I love, they just aren’t as fancy) because I wanted to make my friendly personality more clear to those around me.
This might not be the answer for everyone but it is worth considering. What message do your clothes send to others? If your ideal friend saw you right now, would they be drawn to you based on your appearance or would they run the other way?
I’m not saying you need to change your personal style but it is good to consider whether or not your current style is saying something about you that you don’t want it to say.
16. Be more talkative
Again, I’m not saying that you need to change your personality but if you want to say something in public, then say it!
Maybe you have a comment to make that you are keeping to yourself instead of sharing it with the person beside you.
But those little comments are a great way to break the ice with strangers and will often lead to a deeper conversation.
17. Ask for help
This is one of my favourite ways to connect with strangers. You don’t make friends this way but it definitely gets you into the practice of striking up conversations with strangers.
Whenever I go to a restaurant and I’m feeling particularly indecisive that day, I’ll ask the person taking my order for help.
I’ll tell them what I’m struggling with and then ask for their advice on what to order.
And let me tell you, this has never been anything but an intensely positive experience.
They are always happy to help you out and they usually end up recommending their personal favourite item on the menu.
It’s a lovely interaction and it teaches you that asking for help is not always going to be met with disdain.
More often than not, strangers will be happy to offer assistance and make a connection with you.
18. Be curious and ask questions
This is a skill my dad is great at and it almost always leads to a full conversation.
He is a curious guy and likes to know how things work. In any given situation, he will strike up a conversation with a nearby stranger by asking them a question.
He might be wondering what the emblem on their coat represents or why their coffee mug has an initial on it. Sometimes he asks about mechanics and other times he asks about science.
The questions never end and neither do the conversations with strangers.
This is a great way to connect with other people and guarantee engagement from them. People love to give answers to things they know!
19. Offer help
Just as asking for help can lead to connection, so can offering it.
Be on the lookout for ways that you can aid someone else.
Though, let me give you a fair warning with this one- make sure you ask if you can help them before you do anything. I learned the hard way as a child that people don’t take very well to assistance if you don’t ask permission to do so first.
When you see an opportunity to help someone, go to them and ask if you can assist. If they say yes, then go for it! If they decline your offer, then just go about your day.
20. Make eye contact
In school, when a student doesn’t want to be chosen to answer a question, the first strategy they use is to avoid eye contact with the teacher.
When finding a dance partner, prolonged eye contact is a sign that the potential partner has permission to approach.
Eye contact is powerful stuff.
If you want to strike a conversation with someone, the best way to show without any risk of embarrassment is to make eye contact.
It makes it incredibly clear that you are interested in connecting.
Once you’ve started a conversation, maintaining that eye contact is a great way to make it clear to them that this is where you want to be.
21. Truly listen
It’s one thing to hear someone but it’s a whole other thing to actually listen to them.
If you do finally start a conversation with someone, it is crucial that you actually listen to what they’re saying and engage with them.
If talking to you feels like talking to a brick wall, they are not going to have any interest in a friendship.
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22. Be reliable
This tip is more relevant once you’ve made a friend. If you want to maintain this new friendship, it is important that you are reliable.
If you say you are going to be somewhere at a certain time, make an effort to follow through.
Don’t establish yourself as a friend who lets people down all the time. People need to know that they can count on you to do what you say you will do.
23. Give compliments
This is another one of my personal favourite tips on how to make friends that I use on a daily basis.
If you like something about someone else, don’t keep it to yourself- tell them!
You can compliment anything about a person- their voice, their clothes, their hair colour, their pet… you name it!
The best part about this is that it is a no-risk way to connect.
Once you’ve given the compliment, the other person gets to decide if they want to turn it into a conversation or simply leave things as they are.
This is a great strategy for people who are a little more shy or cautious.
24. Say thank you
Just like giving a compliment, saying ‘thank you’ when the opportunity arises provides a perfect opening for a stranger to strike up a conversation.
It is a casual and low-risk ice breaker that can often lead to good conversation and even friendship.
25. Take an interest in the other person
Instead of simply striking up a conversation of small talk, you will have an easier time making friends if you take an interest in who the person actually is.
People love to talk about themselves and to share stories about their lives.
A few simple questions might be all it takes to make a deeper connection with the person of interest.
26. Actually say that you want to be friends
This is definitely a much riskier thing to try, but when it works, it really works!
There was one time where a stranger approached me and said, “I see you around town all the time and you seem interesting. I think we should be friends.”
And just like that, we each had a new friend!
As risky as this approach may feel, it can be kind of nice to get your intentions out in the open immediately.
The worst-case scenario is that the other person says no. But if they say yes, then you have a friend right away without needing any sort of warm-up.
27. Skip the small talk
I was talking to a friend one time and she said that the most annoying thing about making new friends is all of the seemingly mandatory small talk you have to get out of the way first.
I truly detest small talk and I’m terrible at it, so I understand where she is coming from.
However, I don’t think that small talk is necessary to any friendship. If you want to get into deeper conversations immediately, then go for it!
I usually jump immediately to deeper conversations and the worst thing that ever happens is that the other person sticks to curt answers.
Most of the time, though, people are more than ready to talk about bigger things and willingly engage with me.
Don’t feel like you have to follow some sort of template when trying to meet someone new.
Chances are they will like you even more for breaking the status quo.
28. Use their name often
Choosing to remember and use someone else’s name holds a lot of power.
It shows them clearly that you are interested in their friendship. It makes it obvious that you consider them to be memorable and worth identifying.
Though it won’t necessarily keep a conversation going, it at least makes your interest clear.
Go places where you can connect with people
Okay, so maybe you know all of these tricks already, but if you don’t get out there to where the people are, these skills are going to do diddly squat.
You need to go to where the people are in order to, you know, meet people.
The next tips are all about places you can go that can increase your chances of meeting someone you might want to connect with.
29. Join an online group
One negative side to this option is that you’re not getting the benefits of meeting in person with people but it has two positive sides.
Because you are not restricted to your region, you can find lots of people with the same niche interests as you. Additionally, if you are shy or uncomfortable in groups, this is a good way to start getting you comfortable with putting yourself out there.
There are lots of places you can look to join an online group. Tik Tok, Twitch, and Reddit are good places to start.
There are lots of niche groups on different blog sites, as well.
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30. Join a club
This is another great way to get involved in a group where you already know you have something in common with the people there.
It’s a great way to get involved with a larger number of people that is a relatively low-pressure situation.
31. Learn a skill that requires other people
This is a bit of a creative solution if you’re wondering how to make friends. I would recommend learning a skill that actually requires another person’s assistance.
Here’s what I mean by that:
Instead of taking a ballet class where you can dance by yourself, learn how to do ballroom dance or salsa. They are partner activities that require you to dance with someone.
Another good example is chess or poker. These are social games that you need other people for in order to play. Every time you practice or play, you will need to find someone to play with.
It is a good way to encourage social activity if you are prone to opting for alone time.
32. Go to group therapy
There are lots of different types of group therapy.
There are psychoeducational groups, skill development groups, cognitive behavioural groups, support groups, and much more! Whatever it is you want to talk about, there is definitely a group for it!
This can be a great place to make friends because it is already such an intimate setting.
It makes it easier to connect when you are already in a space that encourages connection.
33. Join a charity
Joining a charity will give you a wider range of people to connect with but the bigger benefit of this strategy is that you will be helping a lot of people in the process.
Find a charity that makes you feel excited to get involved and go for it!
34. Spend time in social public areas
When I go through seasons of solitude, it is usually because I didn’t use this tip.
Simply putting yourself in public spaces will make you much more likely to meet future friends.
The best places to meet new people:
- Cafes
- Bookstores
- Libraries
- Bars and Lounges
- Public spaces in hotels
- Parks
- Bar seats at any restaurant
- Public transit
- Museums
Spending more time in any of these areas doing the same thing you would do at home will help to increase your chances of meeting potential friends.
35. Take public transit
Taking buses, trains, planes, and taxis is a great way to meet new people, especially if you are open to making conversation.
This is especially effective if you are taking a long bus trip and will be sitting next to a stranger the entire way.
I’ve met many different people on long rides.
I’ve met an older woman who was on her way to see her granddaughter, a girl my age who had travelled from England to study the aerial circus arts and a man who grew up with a missionary family who later created his own business and travels the world to write about people from all over the place.
Some of these people were people I simply spoke to once, while others gave me a correspondence so that we could connect in the future.
Either way, you meet really cool people and make a good connection along the way!
36. Play detective to find people with commonalities to you
When I’m out in public, I love to observe the people around me in order to see what sort of things we might have in common.
Maybe they have a pin that is from an anime I like or they’re wearing a hat with a quote from my favourite tv show.
Other times, people have approached me because of the field hockey jacket I’m wearing or the Jane Austen-inspired outfit I chose that day.
I even know of some people who will carry around a book they like just to give other people a reason to approach them and share their interest in reading.
If you are looking for clues that will indicate a person’s interests, you will be sure to find some. When you do, you can take it as the perfect opportunity to connect with them.
37. Go to a public event
Much like the public spaces, a public event can be a great way to meet an abundance of people.
One thing that makes this even more effective is that you already know some of their interests based on the event you went to.
If you are attending a music festival, you already know they have an interest in music. If you attended a charity run, you can pretty much guarantee they like to run.
You can also guarantee that no one is in a hurry to leave. They are all there to enjoy the event and connect with like-minded people.
38. Be a creator on social media
We often make the mistake of strictly consuming social media.
We watch Tik Tok and YouTube without commenting or creating videos of our own. Perhaps we scroll through Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter without contributing anything but the occasional like on someone else’s feed.
One way that you can really start to connect with people on a platform you’re already using is to be a creator.
Instead of passively engaging in social media, take the front seat and start sharing ideas of your own.
If you don’t want to be the center of attention, that’s okay, too- just leave engaging comments instead.
It’s a simple way to actually get involved in the social aspect of social media.
Check out my Twitch channel if you’re curious about what I do on social media!
39. When travelling, take opportunities to get social
It can be easy to stay in your own world while travelling but it can be a great opportunity to connect with a lot of interesting people.
Sign up for group tours, hang out in public areas of the hotel, or stay in a shared room at a hostel to give yourself a more social experience.
People are always eager to connect with other travellers while abroad, so you can almost guarantee that you won’t get discouraged by a lack of interest.
One huge benefit that I’ve noticed when I approach travel this way is that I always get the best recommendations during these conversations.
I learn about the best places to eat and visit based on what other people have discovered before me.
40. Commit to being social once a week
I am not a terribly social person as a whole, so this tip has proven to be incredibly effective for me.
I could easily go a week without speaking to a single person. However, I know that’s not healthy for me, so I make a commitment to be social at least once a week.
Every week, I plan an outing or activity that I can enjoy with company and invite other people to take part.
This allows me to be in control of my environment while still having the opportunity to connect with friends and family on a weekly basis.
Be strategic with the friends you have
One last way that you can better learn how to make friends is to be strategic with the friends you already have. There are ways to make new friends that involve the participation of current friends. Try these tips out and see how they work for you!
41. Go to a group event with friends you know
I love to go to group events where there will only be a few strangers.
It is a comfortable environment to meet new people that show up without feeling like you don’t know anyone there.
When attending these group events, make a conscious effort to connect with the people you don’t recognize.
Chances are that you will see them again in the future since the two of you have a mutual friend.
42. Meet a friend’s friend
We’ve all seen this happen before- a friend meets another person’s friend and actually ends up becoming closer to them than they did to the original friend.
If you like the person you are already friends with, chances are that you will like the other people they like.
This is not always the case, but it can be a great way to make a new friend.
43. Make friends out of co-workers
It can be easy to miss out on potential friendships with people we see at work every day.
We assume that they’d only be good to see at work when, in reality, they would make a great friend outside of work.
The best part is that you already know each other.
All it takes to turn your acquaintance into a friend is a simple invitation to anything outside of work.
44. Use your kids or your spouse
Having a family of your own is usually a big reason people say they don’t have friends anymore but you could also use it as an excuse to make friends.
Connect to the parents of your child’s friends or make a note to meet your spouse’s friends.
You will likely find solid friendship somewhere!
45. Say ‘yes’ to new opportunities
I’m not saying you should agree to every opportunity that ever comes your way but be receptive to the opportunities that come up in your life.
If a friend or family member invites you to something, consider going and you might be surprised by the new people you will connect with while you’re there.
46. Consider your neighbours
Whether you live in an apartment or a house, neighbours are often overlooked as potential friends but they shouldn’t be.
Make an effort to connect with them whenever you see them and you might be surprised by how close you become.
If your neighbourhood uses nextdoor.com, this can be a great way to connect!
47. Don’t fight it when people naturally end up in your life
Sometimes you have to work to start relationships but other times it sort of just happens.
I’m sure you can think of a time where someone seemed to magically end up involved in your life even though you didn’t do anything in particular to include them.
One of my best friends sort of just fell into my life one day and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
If this ever happens to you, don’t fight it. Don’t try to force anything, either- some friendships simply exist without us needing to do much about it.
I hope that some of these suggestions helped you learn how to make friends as an adult.
I won’t lie- making friends does get harder once your school life ends but it’s certainly not impossible.
With a few changes in habit and a little effort, you will be able to find friends anywhere!
Do you have any tips on how to make friends as an adult?
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